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January 22, 2013|7:18 am

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Listen up!!! I caught up with a few of my industry pals and here’s what they had to say. I am asking questions and getting honest responses from both men and women as to why they are single and whether or not marriage really works. The responses will shock you! You may ask, “What’s the purpose for this post?” My response is that people seem to be in a state of disbelief whenever I pull out the “I’m Single” card. They can’t believe that I haven’t married as of yet, and that I have been single for the past two years. Am I single by choice? No, I just don’t feel personally in my experience that men want an honest/ loyal mate that’s gon keep it 100. 😉 Some of the responses are funny, some will be your personal testimony.  If You are not featured… I would love to hear your comments? Enjoy! Q: Fantasy: Are you single because your standards are too high? A: Da Orchestra: (male)  My standards aren’t high. PPL’s expectations are high. When you’re passionate bout a career more than you are about having a spouse, PPL tend to want to compete. It’s CUZ they don’t like being in 2nd or 3rd place. Play the role assigned to you.

Just CUZ you fix me some Froot Loops every now and then doesn’t entitle you to anything more than rinsing out the bowl.—Da orchestra

Q: Fantasy: Are you single because your standards are too high? A: Star Lynn: No, I’m not single because my standards are too high. Although, I do have standards I am realistic .I know everyone will not be my soul mate and that my soul mate may not be perfect, but I do have standards… they aren’t thru the roof to the point where I am not unapproachable. I know what I will and will not tolerate because of past relationships. I’m not trying sound cocky, but some men may be intimidated by a woman that can hold her own. I’m not singing the independent lady song, but I want to be able to bring something to the table too. Its’ a team effort in a relationship. I  don’t think that being successful or beautiful has anything to do with it.

It has everything to do with my standards… just because a guy approaches me or thinks that he has found me doesn’t mean that I have to accept him especially, if his sh#t ain’t together.—Star Lynn

Q: Fantasy: You are in the industry men/ women say they are attracted to you because you own a business or you’re educated, etc. Why can’t they handle your lifestyle? What makes them jealous in your opinion?  

A: Nader: Can’t trust ppl that’s why. People have different motives knowing that you’re successful. Some might want u to be in the lime light and others might try and set u up.—Nader Mirfiq A: Nader: They get jealous because they think that you just party every week and you’re around girls all of the time @ these parties.

Q: Fantasy: You are in the industry men/ women say they are attracted to you because you own a business or you’re educated, etc. Why can’t they handle your lifestyle? What makes them jealous in your opinion? A: Arlene Culpepper (female) It’s been my experience that most men don’t seem to deal well with successful women. I’m not sure what the problem is – whether it is jealously of a female working within a male dominated industry, whether it is a female working closely with such successful men or whether it’s the fact we don’t need anything financial from them. Whatever the reason, it’s real and I continue to encounter it.

I love a strong man, so I couldn’t deal with one that has an issue with what I do anyway.–Arlene Culpepper

Q: Fantasy: How easy is it being a female / male in a male dominated industry? Do you find that when you’re in a relationship you have to explain yourself a lot to your mate because of photos that you’ve taken with the opposite sex or social media interaction? A: Dionne “Diva” Character: I am single because I haven’t found exactly what I want! I think it is very hard for a man to deal with a beautiful successful intelligent woman, especially in the Entertainment Industry. Me, I’ll just wait for the Universe to send me “Mr. Diva,” until then, I’ll keep Grinding. Love Ya!

There has to be an abundance amount of trust and understanding.—Dionne Character

Q: Fantasy: How easy is it being a female / male in a male dominated industry? Do you find that when you’re in a relationship you have to explain yourself a lot to your mate because of photos that you’ve taken with the opposite sex or social media interaction? A:Jason Lyric: (male) It’s extremely difficult! My core fan base is women so I have to cater to them. I can see where it can be hard on a woman dealing with me or any other man in this industry. You HAVE to have trust and respect in order to have a chance. I am single because… me personally, I have trust issues ((LOL)) real talk.

I’m not the easiest person to love, but I’m loyal. If you ride for me, I’ll die for you.—Jason Lyric

Q: Fantasy: Are you often misunderstood?

I’m single because a truly single man whose interests I share haven’t scooped me up yet.—Jus Cookie

A: Smut Da Poet: It’s been a minute since I’ve found someone that has made me want to commit to them.On top of that a lot of people can’t handle being in a relationship with someone who’s in the public or well known even if it’s in similar circles.

Honestly I’m single because I rather be that than a cheater.—Smut Da Poet

Q: Fantasy: If you could change one thing about yourself that you feel would make you a great catch what would that one thing be? A:Fatt Mayweather: (male) I would change my body. I’m trying to get that LL Look. The main reason I’m single is because I’m not willing to settle. I have put hard work and dedication into my business, personal growth and self development. As a business man and a father… I need someone who’s willing to grind just as hard.

Broke girls are played out… whats your value?—Fatt Polo Down Mayweather

Marriage works if you make it work. You can give up on it or you can fight thru it. I think that marriage is over rated people look for the fairy tale lifestyle once they get married. There’s no such thing a s a perfect marriage. There is somebody for everybody. Every one  has BS (bull sh#t) with them. It can work just depends on its who’s BS (bull sh#t) you’re willing to put up with. Yes, if you have two parties equally yoked on the same mind set skies the limit. If someone is positive and the other person is jealous it will fail. Somebody will get tired… enough is enough. We get so mad sometimes that we forget what we’re mad or are arguing about. You end up having make up sex.

I am happily single due to some men having insecurity issues with themselves and those that can’t handle a beautiful woman like myself.

 

Q: Fantasy:  What’s the main thing that women compliment you for? What’s the worse thing you’ve ever done that broke a girl’s/ guy’s heart? A: Fam Boy Illy: After they stop staring at my tattoos Konversation . A: Fam Boy Illy: HaD my first Daughter with another girl At the time we were kiDs and She was my GFrienD. Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You Single?

Single to a woman, yet I’m marrieD to my kareer

Q: Fantasy:  What’s the main thing that women compliment you for? What’s the worse thing you’ve ever done that broke a girl’s/ guy’s heart? A: Mouth Droppa: Women don’t compliment each other so I cant really say what they compliment the most… A: Mouth Droppa: I’ve only broken hearts that should’ve never been given to me. I would never break a dudes heart if I let him hand it to me. Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You Single? A: Mouth Droppa: I am single because I push people away.

In this day and age no one is willing to “court” its too much p***y being thrown around freely

Q: Fantasy: You have your own business, you have a top paying job, you’re a successful artist in the entertainment industry… Is there a such thing as being faithful? A: Seven Johnson: There is a such thing as you being faithful when you are such a person that knows what it is to be committed. The success of who you are should never be the navigation to who you become. If there was a person in your life beforehand there should never become an afterthought. And if you met them in route to.. Or in the wake of your success you should be more faithful because you chose to allow them into your life. In that case you are not being faithful to them.. You are being faithful to who they saw you as in being someone they can trust. And a true success story is every facet of your life. Not just your business, talent or portfolio.. It is what you do in your love life, parenting, friendship and most of all… Relationship with GOD. So if you don’t think you can be faithful in the area you are with the person who trusts you.. Then GOD won’t feel you are suitable to be the flagship for the STORY that brings HIM GLORY. So when you are humble enough to know that you were given this to give back, and not just take away… You will understand that faithfulness id=s what you give to that person who you can’t see being taken away… SEVEN J.

So the only way to know that they are right for a marriage that is right is that you have to know that they are right when all things go wrong. Marriage works… You jUst have to be willing to work on it… SEVEN J.

Q: Fantasy: You have your own business, you have a top paying job, you’re a successful artist in the entertainment industry… Is there a such thing as being faithful? A: E.D. Free: (female) Yes, there is most definitely a such thing as being faithful.  Faithfulness is one of those things that you master by practice.  Lets be honest. There is a ton of temptation around you and at some point we all have given in.  But, when you have reached that level of success to where people respect you, the moves and decisions you make… fatihfulness is something necessary in all relationships.  When you are focused and into your career… do you really have time not to be faithful to it and the person that you’re committed to?  Key word being “committed.”  I mean lets have an honest moment right ((LOL)) I am a successful business owner and a brand, a successful publicist with several clients to keep up with at once.  I was constantly around and exposed to things that I desired.   Temptation of the attention and of flesh is a beast okay, but at one point I got over the thrill of it and asked myself… whats next? The only thing left to do is be faithful. A common characteristic of most successful people, we all can not let a challenge beat us.  When you find yourself having that talk like yea yea been there done that, got the shirt and the text, in regards to being faithful or not being faithful is almost like a no brain-er.   T.I. said when he was asked about how does he stay faithful and committed in his marriage to Tiny, he said its simple.  The day he  decided he wanted to be fully committed/married to this woman, he started to live and act like it. Now take that and roll with it.

Being faithful shows your maturity and in my opinion low tolerance for the bullshit. It takes entirely too much time to be keeping up with all these heauxs now days.  And when you are successful in your career ain’t no body got time for that.— E.D. Free

Q: Fantasy:  How easy is it to resist temptation? What’s your definition of thirsty? A: Casme’ : It’s not easy but I keep my mind, body & spirit occupied by Purpose. A: Casme’ : Thirsty. Desperate to get a man by any means necessary. Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You Single? Does Marriage Really Work? A: Casme’ : This industry is hard to be in & married if one is not focused or have the wrong intentions. I’m focused & patient enough to know that my Day Is coming.

One has to be complete first before joining a unit. I’m working on me &fulfilling my destiny. When we meet it’ll be Heavenly.—Casme’

Q: Fantasy:  How easy is it to resist temptation? What’s your definition of thirsty? A: Carlton Wade: I don’t. ((LOL)). No, but really. I usually think about the consequences prior to making any moves. I weigh my pros and cons and measure to see whether the risk is worth the desired outcome. Mostly, since I became a father, I ask myself what advice I would give my son. And the advice is always the direct opposite of what I would have done before I had a child. As far as being thirsty, my definition may be a bit clouded because I just have a low tolerance for bullshit and games. The moment I since that the woman isn’t 100, I keep it moving. I have been wrong in some instances and I probably have lost out on a potentially good situation. But being thirsty in my opinion is actually being overzealous to the point where you’re a pest. A woman knows early on whether she’s interested in you or not. Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You Single? Does Marriage Really Work? A: Carlton Wade: I’m divorced as of three years. Going through the divorce, my ex-wife and I were told to wait at least a year before you start a new relationship. At this point, I don’t know exactly what I want but I do know what I don’t want in a mate.

I will not settle so I’m just waiting to find that woman that makes the fireworks go off!— Carlton Wade

Q: Fantasy: How do you determine whether or not a person really wants you or they want you just because they desire to be a part of your success? A: Kali’ Red: “Sometimes”…you can determine whether or not a person really wants you, or desires to be a part of your success by simply paying attention to the chemistry that you and that person have during the time that you spend together. If that chemistry is off balance and totally different from what the person is displaying, you can usually FEEL that it’s not real.

→→Also, take some time out to reflect back to how you met that person… (where you were at that time, and how did they approach you). These days it’s hard to tell who’s real and who’s fake, so you have to be EXTRA CAREFUL with allowing people to get close to you, you have to really PROTECT your HEART. But you can FEEL it when the person just desires your success…because they push you to include them into the limelight in various ways…and when the success ride slows down or takes a wrong turn, their TRUE COLORS starts to show vividly…or they turn their back/leave you with no remorse.

Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You single?

A: Kali’ Red: I am single because I choose to be right now…I haven’t come across anyone that I feel that special connection with yet, and honestly, I really haven’t been looking!

I’ve been busy trying to get myself together, and focused on my new set of goals…so that I can stay on my success path or what ever God has in store for me. Because I know that he hasn’t bought me this far for nothing!—Kali’ Red

Q: Fantasy: How do you determine whether or not a person really wants you or they want you just because they desire to be a part of your success? A: Tru Kernell: For instance I’m getting a lot of attention right now and I know that’s its not really me that the ladies love it’s the success of what I have going on. It’s not me. When you come up on money or build some type of success you can tell whether or not a person has genuine interest in you or not. Some women in the past have complained of not being introduced to the people in my circle. If a woman can come into my life and embrace everything in it then she’s the one. I get in my zone and sometimes need that additional motivation… I’m so accustomed to motivating myself.

People want you because you’re handsome and successful. You have to be cautious when selecting a mate.— Tru Kernell

A: Kami Gauche’: The one’s who love Mr. All the Way Live or like Mr. All the Way Live would not want to, but the people who knows the real me and who I am as a person would still want me. They know one thing about me… I will get it back. The women are gon be there no matter what. Whether I’m broke, rich, or depressed if its a woman that I’m dealing with it depends on her outlook on life. She may not be able to deal with me because I’m a different person when I’m broke. I be angry, not easy to get along with… I snap at people. I wouldn’t expect any one to stick around because I’m hard to deal with if I’m broke. That’s why I try to keep me some money at all times. I am single because women cant handle the pressure of being seeing with me in public meaning we’re okay as long as we’re in the house. but as soon as I take them out to a public event or show its over with because they can’t handle the women walking up to make hugging and kissing you.

They ask you to take pictures with them because they’re fans and I cant tell them no.

Q: Fantasy: Describe the most romantic date that you have ever been on? What’s your definition of the worse date ever? A: Iris Poree: I’d say my most romantic date was on valentines day when my daughters dad snuck behind security at my school to give me balloons and a bear. ((LOL)) When I got home, he had the room decorated with roses and candles with a card on the bed. A: Iris Poree: My worst date, I guess I’d say was when I left a n#gga in the club. He wasn’t man enough that night. A: Iris Poree: It’s hard dating if the dude can’t except that I have fans! My fans are the reason why I’m poppin'(successful) so why wouldn’t I show them love? I can’t ever have a jealous man, one who questions my works! Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You Single?

I was single for so long because I had a long checklist of what I wanted in a man.

I finally I have that and he had better keep it  up. He is awesome, always encourages me to pursue my dream, and that’s all that matters when it comes down to what I want in a man. Q: Fantasy: Describe the most romantic date that you have ever been on? What’s your definition of the worse date ever? A: Acelo: Ok….the most romantic date I’ve been on was a helicopter ride around the city…Never had a worst date, but I’ve experienced dates where Myself & the other person just didn’t gel when we got along. Q: Fantasy: Does Marriage Really Work? A:  Acelo: Actually I’m engaged to my son’s mother.

I believe marriage can work if you “know” the person your marrying & both parties are selfless

Q: Fantasy: If You’re Successful, Beautiful/ Handsome Why Are You Single? What’s your ideal mate? What’s the perfect date? A: Fantasy:  I am turned on by a man that is God fearing,book smart, street smart, and knows what he wants out of life. He must be health conscious and not one that has a million miles on his d#ck. A man that has goals, dreams, and aspirations. If he is family/ business oriented and a romanticists… that’s a plus. I prefer tall, dark, and handsome, but if he is truly charming and into me I’ll make exceptions. He would also need to be capable of being my best friend, chemistry and passion are of grave importance. I don’t like men that are lazy, broke(with no plans of changing it), compulsive liars, self absorbed, male chauvinist, egotistical pigs. 🙂 This list goes on!!!((LOL)) I’m worth a lot so, I require a lot.

My idea of a romantic evening is having a man cook for me, him wanting to eat me for dessert, and making love to me until the sun comes up. 🙂 #repeat

“We are passionate about beings that have been blessed with the ability to move mountains with their minds.”